Broaden your self understanding, improve your relationships, NLP Meta Programmes help you understand what makes you tick. In our NLP training we discuss how the NLP Meta Programmes relate to the Myers Briggs personality types of Introvert/Extrovert, Intuitor/Sensor, Thinker/Feeler, Judger/Perceiver:
[fusion_builder_container hundred_percent=”yes” overflow=”visible”][fusion_builder_row][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”][colored_box variation=”wheat”]I am an Introvert for sure. Thinking about when I recharge my batteries I really need to be alone, to be silent, to think and reflect. I am generally an introvert, although if I am with a familiar group of friends I would become more extrovert, I am very much the party planner, but only in that sense otherwise I validate internally, external validation really doesn’t mean much to my sense of achievement, I am internally focused, listen well and have a few close relationships. I’m definitely not a hugger. Oh god, I can’t handle a hugger in the room!
My preference is for Intuitor. I would definitely need to know the relationship between the ideas and how they can be used in the future, otherwise what is their worth to me? I am very future orientated, hence my love of goals, and how they all fit in to build my future, not my now. I like puzzles and abstract ways of thinking, ideas and theories and as much as I would love to be able to focus on a task at hand, I can’t even finish cleaning one room before I start on the next.
Feeler. It is far more important for me to be thought of as fair, caring and sensitive than reasonable, logical and objective. Although I run on my own sense of logic, I go with the flow and adapt easily, my decisions are based on my values and feelings. I rarely tell people when they disagree, although that’s usually because I cannot see the worth in it, if I think they have the flexibility to consider my opinion I would. I’m not good with decisions or disassociation.
I am very much a perceiver. I love to explore unknown territory, keep options open and flexible, adaptable so that I can change to fit the context. I am creative and spontaneous and utterly useless at order and sequence or needing closure. I fit the world, and I cannot follow a list to save my life! I lose them or they need adapting so much they become worthless to that current moment of spontaneity. More like a child in awe of what life is going to bring next.
Thinking about my parents, because despite over 40 years of marriage they still can’t understand how each other functions despite the similarities!
My mother is introvert, she has a few close relationships that she has maintained for a long time, needs her alone time, quiet. Thinks, then speaks and internally validates, so you can’t sway her there. My father is an Introvert too, his internal validation has almost tipped the ego to he is the only one that is right and we must validate through him. Has the same friends since he was 3, definitely not a hugger, in fact if he hugged me I’d be in therapy, and he spends a lot of time alone. He doesn’t sit in the background though. Socially he extroverts.
My mother is a sensor, she would want the facts for here and now, she deals with tasks at hand, cannot think abstractly or how things relate and work. She is very in the now and doesn’t fantasise. She was a nurse so deals well with data and figures. My father is 50/50 sensor intuitor, he would need the facts now and how that fits into the future. He is very pragmatic, needs facts and figures, tangible results and is in the now. He likes to see how things relate and think abstractly, consider, how does it all fit together.
For my mother it is more important to be thought of as a caring, sensitive person. She is very associated with decisions and goes with feelings, is gentled hearted and extends herself to others. Absolutely everyone in my life says how sweet my mother is, how kind and caring. They gush. My father is a thinker, he would prefer to be seen as reasonable, logical and objective. He is completely disassociated, needs clarification (in his own words too) and is objective and logical. He values being truthful highly and is firm minded and most certainly tells people when he disagrees! This is difficult for my mother who ‘feels’ and is very associated.
My mother would need flexibility in a project, she would need to keep options open and would be easily distracted for sure. I am really thinking of their DIY projects now and how this relates so closely! It’s very fun. Plans are not important to her she would just pick it up and put it down, ‘playing it by ear’. My father on the other hand is the judger, he writes up project time lines for my mother to make a project outlined, planned and orderly (my mother loses these plans each and every time!). He has order and sequence to his projects and is organised in a fixed pattern and on time.[/colored_box]
[/fusion_builder_column][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”][colored_box variation=”silver”]When considering my own basic Meta Programs, I can identify that I am mostly extroverted. This however is subject to external circumstances and influences. I can recognise, when considering the continuum that I will shift between being introverted and extroverted at different times and with different people in different places. Sometimes when I am walking I will be so introverted that a UFO could land next to me and I would not realise it. Other times, when I am socialising with friends, I am extremely aware of each and every person in the room.
I can identify myself very much as a sensor. When I embark on a project I want to know the details and practicalities of what I am working towards. I want to know how to use and apply something to a given area. In my therapy work I consider means tested results and what will work. I am very existential and in the here and now moment, whilst maintaining awareness of the road I have travelled and what lies ahead.
My internal state tends to lean more towards being a feeler than a thinker. While I pay close attention to addressing problems and making decisions that are important, that rest of myself is quite impulsive. I tend to go with the feeling and flow of the moment. Often at the weekends, I prefer to take it as it comes and play it by feel rather than plan it all up. I realise that I am very flexible in my thinking, which allows me to adapt to situation and I will often be ok to work with what suits others.
My adaptation operator functions from a perceiver perspective dominantly. I like to have options that I can work around and make decisions that will flow. If I have a night out with friends planned, and they ask what I would like to do or where I would like to go. I would be likely to have a few options available as plan ‘B’ and ‘C’. it isn’t important to me to follow a set plan, I prefer to got with the flow.
If I think about my partner, I recognise that she is definitely extroverted as she os always thinking of other people. Always wondering how her family members are who she doesn’t see so often. If someone is troubled she will keep them in mind and be concerned of there welfare. She is certainly very kinaesthetic. She often embraces her friends with hugs and loves to catch up with people whenever possible. I can observe the sensor from within her when she takes time to explore the purpose of something and how usefulf it might be. When shopping she will compare different products by reading the details that describe them and look at how it will benefit her. She is definitely a feeler, she is driven by her internal state of emotion and uses her feelings as a guide in her life.
The perceiver stands out too, when she demonstrates flexibility making plans. I often hear her friends ask about a get together and she will leave it to them to for when suits them. She will often go off on tangent according to how she feels.
My dad Is very different. I have always observed the introvert from himself. He will think a lot about what he needs to do before considering anything else. He keeps very much to himself and absolutely will only approach any task one at a time. Multi tasking does not exist with him. He is certainly an intuitor, he he is always mindful of cause and effect of the nw in relation to the future. “Where will it lead to, what’s it all for?” The thinker side of him makes a decision and sticks to it. Once he has a plan, he doesn’t like to be challenged about it. The judger stands out more than anything with my old man. He will get up in the morning and go through a ritualistic routine before he would even contemplate leaving his house. He knows where he is going, the best way to get there and must never be late. Everything is before time, he pays bills a wek before the due date and prepares everything in good time.[/colored_box]
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