Use NLP in your Coaching Practice. I would whole-heartedly recommend it. You will find that it delivers outstanding results!
All coaches use NLP. The best coaches use NLP deliberately in their coaching pracice.
NLP is a study of how we humans use our brains to communicate internally and also with others. It concerns how we construct our thinking and how behaviours and actions result from that thinking. Every action has an outcome or consequence as we know.
NLP helps us understand the relationship between our inner thinking world and our resultant behaviours and the outcomes that our behaviours produce.
We can make interventions at a thinking level which alter our behaviours and get us different outcomes.
NLP Provides a deep understanding of this structure from a thinking point of view. It provides a series of thinking strategies that people can employ to improve their happiness and their behaviours. This has a directly beneficial impact on their relationships. The relationship with themselves and with people who they spend time with.
NLP enables people to improve their effectiveness at work
Unlike a surgeon, who makes a precise intervention with a physical object. NLP relies on a non-physical intervention approach. It is a psychological intervention approach to life improvement.
A coach who has knowledge of NLP will approach their coaching sessions armed with a bag or box full of psychological intervention techniques to use to help their clients chive the resultant improvements. That they desire in their life.
NLP is a coaches’ surgical toolkit if you like. They will get to know the objectives of the client. Let’s think of it as a jigsaw puzzle – the clients life that is, with some missing pieces. The NLP coach will carry a bag with the missing pieces in it (the missing pieces are in fact the psychological interventions. They will deploy the intervention or interventions that Bret suit the needs or objectives of the client.
What does a coach do? Why use NLP in your coaching practice
A coach transports someone from where they are to where they want to go.
Coaching helps solve current problems and problems from past events
A coach works with a client to help then design a compelling plan for the client’s future
How to use NLP in Coaching?
Use the NLP 4-mat system. In NLP we assume that whenever someone learns something new or enters into a new venture they will probably be asking themselves one or more of the following questions. Why? What? How? What if?
The 4-MAt model aims to answer theses four questions.
In terms of the coaching clients, they may be asking themselves:
- Why should I do this coaching? Why should I use this coach
- What are we going to do? What is required of me? What will be the benefits for me?
- How are we going to do it? How should I approach this change?
- What if I did go ahead? What if I used this coaching? What outcome am I likely to get?
The coach will seek to answer these questions in the first meeting.
The coach should be asking the same questions about the client and their life situation. By following the NLP coaching process this will lead them to the answers that they can present to their client.
1) Why? Objective setting session:
The coach will seek to discover:
Why are they having this challenge in their life?
What sort of impact are the challenges presenting for the client in their life?
What other areas of their life are being impacted by this?
Your coach will Ask a series of appropriate questions (a fact find) to discover the presenting problem and more importantly any problems behind the presenting problem
Watching out for red flags
Watching out for Red Flags:
NLP Coaches listen out for “red flag” statements from their clients
These may come in the form of:
Limiting beliefs eg. The client uses the words:
“Can’t”, “won’t be able to..”, “impossible (for me)”
“I am not”
An NLP Coach helps the client to convert any “limiting” beliefs so that their client knows that they…
“Will be able to”
“Possible (for me)”
The first Coaching session using NLP
The NLP coach may start by asking questions like: Why take coaching from me?
What benefit do you think that you could get from coaching?
If the answer is “I don’t know” then
The coach may use a tool call the The Wheel of life – which is a current ranking of 1-10 of satisfaction in important areas of the clients life
The wheel of life gives the coach and coachee an overview of life as it is at the moment for the client.
The NLP coach may use specific NLP related questioning techniques to open up the conversation and to facilitate possibility of chage
“Assuming just for a minute that a score of 10 is possible for you, what would have to happen in your life for you to achieve that?
Go forward to that time in your life, what are you seeing, hearing, feeling, saying to yourself? Who is around you? Thank you.
How was that?
The coach will then follow this up with an NLP Values elicitation exercise. This will provide both the client and the coach with a series of action points that need addressing by 1) The Coach 2) The Client
2) What will we be doing in these coaching sessions?
The above action points will be the “value” that the coach can add to the client.
The coach can then put together an NLP techniques plan based on the client’s specific needs and challenges.
NLP techniques are very effective in enabling change. They provide the coach and client with specific processes to go through together that will help the client achieve more of what they want in their life and assist them in overcoming their challenges.
The coach will lead the client. The coach provides verbal instructions for the client to follow. The processes are clear and easy to follow. The processes vary in length from between a couple of minutes to an hour or so.
At this stage the coach becomes the surgeon. The operations are about to begin!
3) How:How do I change? How do I do it?
The HOW will involve carrying out several NLP techniques over a number of sessions.
The NLP coach will use a series (or programme) of specific NLP techniques that will be wholly appropriate to solving the challenge that the client has and assist them in overcoming any Red Flags.
NLP provides solutions for problem solving. What the client has a problem or you have a problem then you can use the NLP language techniques of Milton Model, Meta Model and Chunking to help solve those problems.
4) What if we do this together? What if we change together?
At the end of each NLP process or technique the coach and client will Future pace the effectiveness of their intervention. This essentially involves mentally rehearsing future behaviours, actions and scenarios that the client may be in where their new skills or behaviours may be challenged. How do they react?
Visual rehearsal may also play an important part. The coach and client may visually rehearse the the client achieving their desired outcomes. At this stage the client will really believe that they CAN DO IT!
Together the client and coach will set diary based review appointments.
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